If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you’d like to win, but you think you can’t,
It is almost a cinch that you won’t.
If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost;
For out of the world we find
Success begins with a fellow’s will
It’s all in the state of mind.
If you think you’re outclassed, you are;
You’ve got to think high to rise.
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win the prize.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man;
But sooner or later the man who wins
Is the one who thinks he can!
-Walter D. Wintle
The secret of success can be called determination, heart, willpower or numerous other things but it always requires two attitudes.
The ‘I CAN’ attitude
The I CAN attitude is a simple one, it is about ambition, it is about self belief, it is about never selling yourself short. The I CAN attitude is about your ego, you have to believe in yourself.
Some people believe in themselves so firmly that failure never crosses their mind. Realistically, you will have your failures but it is your belief in yourself that will see you through and this belief will, in time, make you successful.
Forget the word ‘can’t’. Do you think that there really is no way for you to achieve the outcome you’re looking for? Of course there is. Regardless of the level of difficulty you need to forget the word. You can. You either will or you won’t.
The ‘I WILL’ attitude
The I WILL attitude is the ‘Just do it’ attitude
This simply means, do what you say you’re going to do. When you set your goals, actively pursue them, don’t say you’ll start tomorrow or on Monday. Start today. You believe that you can achieve your goals? Now you need to put in the work to make it happen.
You CAN complete your goals and you WILL complete your goals.
The right frame of mind
Making changes to your lifestyle can be difficult; you must see your situation with a focused realism in order to grow. For example, smokers, alcoholics and obese people alike may talk down the effects of the behaviours that cause them harm. A person in this state is in no condition to make positive changes in their life. You must have a clear desire for a better quality of life and you must recognise the harmful effects of the behaviour you wish to change. There is nothing wrong with enjoying most things in moderation but if you have a problem then admit it and decide to take action. Make it a turning point in your life.
It’s all very well to know that you can and then say that you will but procrastination is always possible. The trick to achieving more is simply to do it and to do it now.
“To think too long about doing a thing often becomes its undoing.”
– Eva Young
All of the positive thinking in the world won’t defeat procrastination; you must actively pursue your objectives. If you sit there and think about losing fat and getting fitter then you have dreams. If you start now and achieve your objectives, it will soon become your reality.
“Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.”
– C. Northcote Parkinson
This is true for all things in life and is further reason for setting goals and getting started on them immediately. You have the rest of your life to get to your goals but do you really want to wait that long?
What is a fixed mindset? A fixed mindset is the belief that your abilities are fixed, characteristics that are handed to you through your genes or fate or God.
A fixed mindset limits your development, if you can’t solve a problem then you are not smart enough, if you can’t lose weight then maybe you’re not dedicated enough. A fixed mindset can cause you to tie your self-worth as a person to your ability in a certain area, making you want to prove your worth through your performance and causing you distress whenever you fall short.
Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., is one of the world’s leading researchers in the field of motivation. Her work on mindset led to the following definitions of fixed and growth mindsets.
In a fixed mindset, people believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They spend their time documenting their intelligence or talent instead of developing them. They also believe that talent alone creates success—without effort. They’re wrong.
In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment. Virtually all great people have had these qualities.
A growth mindset is founded on the belief that you can improve. If you don’t truly believe that you can improve then you are fighting yourself from the outset.
The truth is that we’re all works in progress. In order to consistently improve you must adopt a growth mindset. Your failures are not a measure of your self-worth, only your current level of ability; they are merely stepping stones to success.